Character change is by the transforming power of the Holy Spirit in the inward man. If you are not seeing a change in you, you need to ask for the Holy Spirit to help you, and you must listen and follow direction daily as you spend time with the Holy Spirit and the Word of God.
Note that I did not say if others have not seen a change in you. The reason is that by our nature, we are deceptive and can fool anyone, but we cannot fool God, neither must we fool ourselves.
A man’s character is his guardian divinity. – Heraclitus
We do not have to be ostentatious, displaying what we think people want to see to impress them. That is falsehood, the presentation of counterfeit as an original. Many will see through, and others will be fooled. Fooling yourself however is the worst deception.
You must be true to yourself to grow and see the transformation you so desire. The Holy Spirit is your friend. Only Him can work in you to produce a transformation in the inward being. Philippians 2:13
Once you see transformation in you, it’s a matter of time, others will see the character of Christ exemplified in you, and the genuineness of your beingwill be evident to all.
Romans 12:6-8If you preach, just preach God’s Message, nothing else; if you help, just help, don’t take over; if you teach, stick to your teaching; if you give encouraging guidance, be careful that you don’t get bossy; if you’re put in charge, don’t manipulate; if you’re called to give aid to people in distress, keep your eyes open and be quick to respond; if you work with the disadvantaged, don’t let yourself get irritated with them or depressed by them. Keep a smile on your face.
9-10 Love from the center of who you are; don’t fake it. Run for dear life from evil; hold on for dear life to good. Be good friends who love deeply; practice playing second fiddle.
11-13 Don’t burn out; keep yourselves fueled and aflame. Be alert servants of the Master, cheerfully expectant. Don’t quit in hard times;pray all the harder. Help needy Christians; be inventive in hospitality.
14-16 Bless your enemies; no cursing under your breath.Laugh with your happy friends when they’re happy; share tears when they’re down. Get along with each other; don’t be stuck-up. Make friends with nobodies; don’t be the great somebody.
17-19 Don’t hit back;discover beauty in everyone. If you’ve got it in you, get along with everybody. Don’t insist on getting even; that’s not for you to do. “I’ll do the judging,” says God. “I’ll take care of it.”
Let these words find a resting place in our hearts Lord!