Relationship On My Mind! Transparency-Truth And Trust.

Genesis 2: 25 Adam and his wife were both naked, and they felt no shame. A man and a woman in a relationship are meant to be transparent with each other and much more as intended by God. They were naked, yet felt no shame I believe because sin had not yet come between them. The childlike innocence of a child is evidenced here, man and woman living in the garden of love, beautifully endowed with all they could ever need in the presence of God without inhibition. And then it happened – The Fall!

The fall with its attending consequence brought evil into the world and all things became difficult, even truth and transparency in relationships. The lack of truth and trust in our interaction with each other sometime spills over into marriage relationship. Many go into marriage with motives less than honorable, many with convoluted ideas of marriage, fundamentally wrong and leave their spouses gasping for air when reality set in – truth is revealed.

In some relationship, a partner, depending on upbringing and a number of factors may not be able to express themselves. Some for the fear of rejection withheld tangible information from their spouses, and fear also of been taken advantage of and some  may have been taught to not be overly honest in dealing with anyone, especially the opposite sex and this is carried into their marriage.

Some years back, a friend of mine a Law student at the time told me to make sure that my assets gotten before marriage remains in my maiden name and all sorts of advice she gave. In today’s terms it would be like a prenuptial agreement I guess.  I was curious and asked her where this “wisdom” was coming from. I assumed, being a law student, maybe she is been taught marriage law or whatever its called. However, I was surprised when she told me yes, but not that alone. It was the lessons learned in her own family. Her mother in a monogamous relationship, she said collects money from her father monthly for the upkeep of the whole family. Each month she will demand money for a bag of rice, which my friend said last them for about three month or more. She said she queried her mother and what she was told was that, ” you have to be smart with men, don’t tell them everything and in every which way you can take from them do so” She said the extra money received monthly was what her mother used to buy a piece of land and started building, which at the time my friend and I were having this conversation was at the roofing stage and the husband, my friends dad still do not know.

The environment we live in, our belief system, and experiences has a huge influence on how transparent we are or will be with our spouses and others generally. As Christians, regardless of our upbringing and experiences we can make up our minds to be truthful and transparent with our spouses as God demands of us. We truly cannot bond, soul and spirit without transparency on both sides, our bodies bond, we are more than just this body.  A house built on untruth will one day collapse for an adage says ” if lie takes a journey, twenty years ahead of truth, one day, one day, truth will meet lie on the road and will overtake it” Another says, ” twenty year old pounded yam or mashed potato can still scald one’s hand”.  Its meaning simply is that every lie will be found out no matter how long it’s been told – Matthew 10:26, Luke 8:17 Live a life of integrity!

Your life might be the only bible someone might get to read! What do you want them to read? Truth, love, compassion and integrity? Forsake untruth today! Seek the truth of the word of God, meditate in it day and night.

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Jesus is Lord!!!

Shalom! Shalom! Shalom!




Relationship On My Mind!

Relationship with MaraboliRelationship on my mind. I have been pondering on the why, how, what, where and when to dive into this ocean of possibility, the union of two hearts, souls, and bodies to become one indivisible organism before God. I am writing in terms of the biblical principle of marriage as being between a man and a woman, coming together to become a single organism.

In Genesis 1:26 Then God said, “Let us make mankind in our image, in our likeness, so that they may rule over the fish in the sea and the birds in the sky, over the livestock and all the wild animals, and over all the creatures that move along the ground. 27 God created mankind in his own image, in the image of God he created them; male and female he created them.28 God blessed them and said to them, “Be fruitful and increase in number; fill the earth and subdue it. Rule over the fish in the sea and the birds in the sky and over every living creature that moves on the ground.”

MarriageIn Genesis 2:18 The Lord God said, “It is not good for the man to be alone, I will make a helper suitable for him.”……..22 Then the Lord God made a woman from the rib he had taken out of the man, and he brought her to the man. 23 The man, said, “This is now bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh; she shall be called ‘woman,’ for she was taken out of man.” 24 That is why a man leaves his father and mother and is united to his wife, and they become one flesh. 25 Adam and his wife were both naked, and they felt no shame. 

In the course of the next few post, I will be examining some topics starting with verse 25 of Genesis 2. Adam and his wife were both naked, and they felt no shame! A man and a woman in a relationship are meant to be transparent with each other and much more as intended by God. However, in our generation, this is not the case as we have evolved crookedly and the original intention of The Union has been subverted by wickedness. How do we regain lost ground? How do we reestablish The Union of two minds, body and soul to beat as an indivisible organism before God and man in purity?

I had erroneously believed I was not qualified to handle such a topic, considering some facts, and with the thought that I may be too subjective. However, having pondered on this topic for a while now, I am prepared to look through an objective lens. I have been able to finally answer and straighten out some things for myself and clarify some for countless others that would benefit from this expository.

Stay tuned for more as the Holy Spirit leads!

While waiting, do remember that Jesus loves you. Regardless of your marital status, disability, and limitations of all sort, you will be accepted into His kingdom. John 6:37 All those the Father gives me will come to me, and whoever comes to me I will never drive away. All you have to do is to repent, that is turn away from your sin, flee from it, accept Christ as your personal Lord and savior, confessing His Lordship over your life, dwelling in His word and living by it. Feast on Christ and sin will have no power over you. Jesus Christ is Lord!!!

Shalom! Shalom! Shalom!